NOW THAT YOU’RE FEELING CALM, CAN YOU TRUST WHAT’S AHEAD?
Trust is an important feeling to establish and retain with others. You know what it feels like – safe, secure, confident, upheld. And you know what it feels like when trust is broken – mistrusting, uncertain, unsure, disconnected.
With all the changes most of us have experienced in this last year, its easy to find yourself struggling to trust what lies ahead with a person(s), business, institution, with honestly a LOT of things.
Curious to know how your “Trust-o-Meter” is working these days? Take a few minutes to answer this quiz created by Martha Nibley Beck, (speaker, author and life coach to many including Oprah Winfrey). It’s called The Trust Test and will help you gain a snapshot of your current level of trust in the world, and perhaps identify the areas where you have some gaps.
Identifying those gaps in the way we trust the world, provides each of us with a potential pathway for exploration and inquiry. Can trust be re-established? Is it appropriate to talk about trust concerns? How can you prepare this month (or when you’re ready) to address the trust gaps that still exist?
What about trusting your partner? This past year has challenged many couples with differing opinions, to find common ground and openly discuss their different perspectives on the world and solutions to make a better tomorrow.
Getting an honest assessment of whether you trust your partner, may be a good place to start. Then take that info and consider an action plan to build a stronger bridge between you as you listen and seek to understand how opinions can vary so completely between people who deeply love one another.
Looking for ways to start building that bridge of understanding? Search on Google and you’ll see there are hundreds of timely and helpful suggestions! Remember to diffuse the geranium – the Oil of Love and Trust.
In his book The Speed of Trust – The One Thing That Changes Everything, Steven M.R.Covey talks about the core principles of trust for self-assessment and business uses, followed by suggestions to restore trust when it’s been lost. In his final chapter, he summarizes with two key points I believe are critical to reestablishing trust:
- Don’t be too quick to judge.
- Do be quick to forgive.